In the many roles that I am blessed to fill, I often find myself having the opportunity to speak on many subjects. While some might find this stressful or even fearful, I cherish these opportunities and truly consider them blessings in my life.

If I was just to pause and look back at the past month, I have had the opportunity to speak on subjects such as “What it means to be a man”, “How to serve your family”, “How to love others like yourself”, and these are just a few. I could add topics on leadership, relationships, church growth and more.

The reason that I share this with you in a blog type form is because of something that came to me over the past week. I realized that I often have the chance to speak on subjects in which I am passionate. I speak a lot about God and my relationship with Him. However, I have to remember that others are watching my every move.

If I spend the entire conference speaking on what it means to be a man, or how to serve your family, and then live a life that is completely opposite, two things happen. First, I live the life of a hypocrite. My actions compete with my words. There is a biblical term that leaders could learn, discipleship. The description that I use for discipleship is “learning by living with”. Disciples learn by listening and watching their teacher.

The second thing that happens goes right along with the subject of discipleship. Leaders have disciples even if we do not want to recognize it. Those on our teams and in our circle of influence are watching our every move. They see how we handle conflict, how we praise and lift others up. They also notice the negative stuff, as well. In fact, sometimes the negative stuff comes across louder than the good stuff.

I guess what I wanted to say this week is this. The team that we lead is following us closer than we might imagine. They are watching every move, listening to every word. We need to remember that, as leaders, we need to live by the same rules we give others.

This week’s experiment is to examine our actions. Since actions speak louder than words, what are they saying about leadership?